Interview with Mistress Lucilla – Sydney Based BBW ProDomme

Let us introduce you to Mistress Lucilla. She is a Sydney Based Mistress. Described as Goddess of Curves, Pro BBW Dominatrix. Passionate Practitioner of BDSM and Fetish. She truly enjoys the journey of uncovering what excites and scares you and help you discover what you havent discovered yet.  Read her interview to find out more and check out her website to see how you can go on this journey with Mistress Lucilla.

 

We know you have been a Dominatrix for over 17 years. Tell us what made you decide to enter into the world of BDSM as aProDomme

I knew from my mid teens that I wasn’t like other kids. In fact, I wasn’t a ‘kid’ at all. I started exploring my sexuality & identity early on and gravitated towards the goth scene. I snuck into HellFire one night and it all made sense to me, this is where I was supposed to be – I’m ‘home’. I started playing with a Dom who was very quick to identify my own dominant characteristics and suggested I’d be very good at being a Mistress, so much so, suggesting I consider a career out of it.  

 

How would you describe your style as a ProDomme

In this job, you have to be able to adapt to all types of sessions as while the requests may be similar, the client’s response to the session will always vary. My style is often very psychological, pensive, slightly spiritual and strict. I deliberately use music, scent, lighting and tone of voice to add light and shade to sessions so all of the senses are engaged (or denied). I’m rather famous for my stare too, I’ve been told it’s deadly. 

 

 

We know a couple of ProDommes and know some of them have favourite types of sessions like Corporal Punishment or Humiliation sessions etc… Do you find there are particular sessions people seek you out for and that you absolutely love and want to do more of? 

My strengths in take downs, kidnapping and interrogations are exemplary. Perhaps being in a private girl’s school throughout primary and high school was a good incubator for my sadism (or required survival skills) but I find these kind of sessions most enjoyable. I still surprise myself with the venom that I come up with …. whoops. On a lighter note, what I thoroughly enjoy is sessions where clients use BDSM as a form of therapy and healing. For me, the magnitude of the session objective and responsibility resonates with me and I am grateful for being involved in such a journey. 

 

 

If its someones first time getting in touch with a ProDomme like yourself. How do you advise them to best approach you, what information is required to ensure you go ahead with a session with them?  

Let’s start with what not to do. If I receive a message with just ‘Hi’ or ‘Hi Mistress’ or ‘I wanna be your dog’, these get ignored and not responded to as, 99.9% of these messaged equals time wasters.

When contacting a pro domme with a session enquiry, be concise, polite and have clarity around what type of session you are after, your hard limits, how long you want the session for and when. The more information you provide upfront gives us a good indication on how genuine the enquiry is and also how to respond with rates, avails and top line session plan if required. 

Also, be clear around your budget beforehand. Most of us Pro Dommes are transparent with our hourly rates on escort directories and our sites so before reaching out, try to get an understanding if the Pro Domme you want to see is within your budget.  

 

 

Do you have your own dungeon or do you only operate out of other premises? 

I work out of The Kastle in Chippendale, Sydney. 
 

 

Do you see people of all kinds of experience level? Do you enjoy seeing people starting out on their exploration of BDSM? If you enjoy seeing newbies, what is it about exploring this with them that you like the most?

Yes, I session with clients who are at various stages of their kink journey. Guiding clients through their first session is always enjoyable as everything is so shiny and new, I find it refreshing. What I particularly enjoy is helping clients evolve their fantasies and kinks with each session. Often where you end up is in a very different place to where you started and giving yourself permission to let go and explore your desire without restriction is a positively life changing experience. 

 

 

Can you explain Safe, Sane and Consentual for those who might not fully understand?  

A crucial element of my practice, let me outline it for you:

SAFE = at all times, no unwanted injury or transfer of disease is to occur. For example, you ask for no marks & you are left with a bruised and bloodied butt or a toy is used that hasn’t been cleaned and/or with no protection on it (putting you at risk of catching an STI) means the session was not conducted safely 

 

SANE = refers to the mindset of the individuals involved, requiring that all participants are able to keep their conduct ‘in check’ and make good judgement of the session of the request. For example, stories or content involving paedophilia or minors is not sane, therefore will be shut down immediately. 

 

CONSENTUAL = simple common sense. All participants must consent to all aspects of the session and that applies to both the client and BDSM practitioner.  

 

 

What kind of interests, hobbies or activities do you enjoy outside of working? What gets the passions flowing? 

I used to do a lot of photography and this passion still lingers. I am drawn to the mystery of abandoned buildings and still love sneaking inside to see if the building will reveal any of it’s secrets. Also, on the rare occasion I’m home, I love cooking. 

 

 

What do you believe is important in a relationship between a Domme & Sub whether professionally or within the lifestyle? In your opinion anyway.  

Like any relationship, trust, honesty & communication is key. Like a plant, the more you feed it the right nutrients, the more it thrives. 

 

 

Lastly is there anything you want to share with those reading about yourself, what you offer or just in general about BDSM?

Please feel free to follow me on: 

Twitter: MistressLucilla 

Instagram: @mistresslucilla 

Snapchat: mistresslucilla 

Fet Life: Mistress_Lucilla 

Website: mistresslucilla.com.au 

 

 

Leave comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked with *.