Let us introduce you to Nik Valentine, who is a Melbourne Based Trans Escort who, when it is possible, is also available to tour nationally. Nik is well educated, open to a range of experiences, and would love to take you on a journey, To help build sexual energy between 2 people and see where it takes you. Have a read through Niks Interview to discover more and see what kind of things you could enjoy together. You will find Niks Advertising & Online Presence at the bottom of this interview to find out even more.
1. We see in your ad that you mention you are both Pansexual and Non-Binary, for those who may not fully understand can you tell us what these mean for yourself?
Pansexual is a sexual identity, and nonbinary is a gender identity. Pansexual basically means I have the capacity for attraction no matter the gender. In practice, it means “bisexual but more”. Nonbinary is a bit more nuanced. When we talk about gender, we typically tend to sort people into two broad groups; men and women. Nonbinary is a form of being transgender, as I’m male but not a man, but I don’t identify as being a woman either. It gets pretty interesting in practice; I wear skirts more often than dresses, but the way I dress in general tends to be feminine with a distinct masculine streak. I walk an interesting gender line that’s neither man nor woman, and that’s why I identify with the term nonbinary. I was raised as a man though, and it’s only been quite recently that I’ve transitioned socially.
2. We saw in your advertising that you have studied Auslan, That’s really amazing. What prompted you to learn that? And how long have you been proficient in Auslan?
Auslan is an interesting one, and there’s a lot in this question! I have a natural knack for language, and when I learned Auslan I had a friend who was Deaf. She passed away in 2011, but I stayed interested in the language due to its kinetic rather than somatic nature, and a desire to reduce the impact of everyday ableism. I wouldn’t say Auslan is my strongest language, but even though it’s not anywhere near interpreter-grade, I can definitely hold a conversation. The other thing that kept me learning and maintaining my Auslan is the issue of accessibility in the world for Deaf people. I don’t feel it’s appropriate to demand of the Deaf community that they communicate solely in English, especially when I can do my part in bridging a communication gap. I also see disabled clients, and some of them use a form of sign language, so it definitely helps there as well. Deaf and disabled people have just as much right to access intimacy as anyone.
3. On your profile you have mentioned you are located in Melbourne. What is it you love about living in Melbourne? Do you have favorite places you like to spend time around Melbourne? If someone hasn’t been there before or only been a few times what things do you recommend they have to do or see while they are there?
I actually live just west of Melbourne, just far enough out that fortunately, I’ve avoided a lot of the recent lockdown restrictions but close enough that I can be in the city in about a half-hour. When everyone isn’t locked indoors, my favorite places to hang out are Brunswick for the amazing food and pub scene, the many indoor rock climbing gyms because I love climbing on things, and the various art galleries and installations. I also have to mention the amazing variety of multicultural food, as we’re a very multicultural city and there are people from all walks of life here. It’s also generally safe for queer people. If you’re strapped for time, though, I can’t recommend Lygon Street in Carlton enough. The Italian food there is gorgeous, and I do have a severe weakness for lemon sorbetto. If you have a day and night though, I’d recommend a visit to the NGV, lunch on Degraves Street, and a trip to one of the observation decks or the Southern Star. Melbourne is a spectacular place at night, and nothing quite beats the first time you see it lit up at night.
4. Out of all the kinds of sessions you like to get up to, what would be your favourite kinds of sessions and why?
I’m a true switch, so this is a very deep question, I love it! For those not in the know, a true switch is comfortable in the dominant or submissive role, in either the top or bottom position. I would have to say that if I had to pick a single kind of session I enjoy the most, it would have to be a dinner/lunch date and play session. It gives me an opportunity to really know a client and have a great social outing, and tease up a storm. I love building a whole bunch of sexual energy over like an hour or so, then have the opportunity to unleash it on each other later. With that said, there’s also a lot to like about various kinds of power exchange sessions, which I have a deep-seated love of. I could talk for hours about all the sessions I enjoy though, I’m very versatile and diverse in my tastes and wants!
5. We know Melbourne has been in Lockdown numerous times since COVID came to Australia have you started offering online sessions or online content in lieu of in-person sessions when you haven’t been able to do in-person sessions? If you have been offering these alternatives have you enjoyed doing them or have you found it difficult to break into?
Lockdowns have been really difficult on the entire industry as a whole, I think. They’re a necessary thing, considering that on average 1 in 25 people who have contracted the disease have died, but that doesn’t really change the fact that sex workers sometimes don’t qualify for government assistance and also might not be allowed to work with health restrictions in effect. If you’re looking to see a sex worker after the restrictions are lifted, please do keep getting in contact with us and making appointments, it really helps out a lot. I personally haven’t started doing online content, but that’s been more a matter of not having the time while I was at uni. Now that I’m finished though, I’ll have a lot more time to take lewds and put them on the internet, and I’m looking forward to it a lot!
6. When you aren’t working, how do you like to spend your time? What kinds of interests and hobbies do you like to engage in?
When I’m not at work, I’m usually doing something active. I took up pole dancing a while ago to challenge my strength and flexibility, and I can’t get enough of it. I also do yoga for its emotional and spiritual benefits, and I love to cook and bake. I’m also a gamer and a knitter, which my cat shares my interest in. Over the quarantine period, I’ve also started expanding my collection of pole heels, which is kind of a guilty pleasure of mine.
7. We saw you have learnt Japanese and Spanish. What made you decide to learn these languages and have you ever been to Japan or Spanish speaking countries?
So the story of how I took up Japanese is actually a bit embarrassing. My main motivation for taking up my Bachelors’s Degree was majoring in Japanese Language so I could watch and read a wider variety of anime and manga. We had an exchange program with a school in Japan with a biennial trip to Japan, and the Japanese students would visit in the years we weren’t visiting them. I believe the trip didn’t end up going ahead while I was there due to bad timing and an outbreak of swine flu. I had plans to go to Japan last year, but international travel isn’t really a thing we can do at the moment for obvious reasons.
For Spanish though, I learned because I made a trip to America and popped across the border from San Diego into Ciudad Tijuana for a couple of days and wanted to be able to speak the language a little. I’d already studied French and Italian at school, and all of the romance languages share a common ancestry, so I was able to pick that up pretty easily comparative to Japanese. At least Spanish uses the Roman alphabet, as opposed to Japanese which has three separate “alphabets”, one of which has nearly two thousand standard characters and no way to sound them out.
On an everyday basis though, I see language to be as much of an accessibility and inclusivity issue as it is a multicultural issue. Though English is the majority language in Australia, people might be new migrants, tourists, or speak a different language at home. I feel that meeting people halfway in communication makes the work a little bit of a friendlier place for everyone. The next language I intend to learn is Hindi, and I look forward to the challenge of that.
8. If someone wants to spend time with you, how is the best way to make a great first impression with you?
If someone wants to spend time with me and make a good first impression, the best way to do that is to just say hello! I love to have a chat and get to know you, likes, dislikes, needs and wants, etc. I’m available to text a lot of the time, and to talk on the phone as well. Please understand that I might not be able to say yes to everything you might want to do due to either my comfort or practicality issues, and there are some services that are just straight-up illegal for me to offer, so if I tell you we can’t, please don’t get mad at me. If you’re looking to make a great impression on me in person, I love a person who smells nice. There’s something very intimate and complex about being close enough to a person to be able to tell that they’ve made the effort to wear aftershave or perfume.
9. As someone who is Non-Binary and uses the pronouns he/they/she, Do you find the sex work community to be supportive, do you find in general the clients you see to be supportive and understanding? How do you feel people can be more supportive and inclusive of the LGBT+ identifying sex workers in general?
I do actually! Almost without exception, the sex worker community is lovely and inclusive, with lots of collegiate solidarity. All of my customers have been amazing about respecting my identity as well. I think it helps that I’m very open about the kind of person I am and the fact that I’m trans and AMAB. I’d be lying if I said people haven’t made me feel a bit uncomfortable though, but I think that’s, unfortunately, part of the core trans experience. The best way everyone can support the community and make the world a bit of a nicer place for queer-identified people is to try and get educated on accepted terminology. It can be a lot to take in and the language sometimes changes pretty quickly, but it kinda sucks to get called a slur because the person just didn’t realize we don’t use that word anymore. The closet sucks to be in, and we shouldn’t have to choose between our authenticity and our safety.
10. Lastly, is there anything else you would love for people to know about you that you would like to share with us.
If you’ve considered seeing a sex worker and you’re not sure, just call or text! I love working with new people and exploring new experiences with people, so please don’t even hesitate. I’d love the chance to work with you and help create an amazing experience for you.
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